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Book Review – Crazy Time

I highly recommend this book to people in the early stages of learning about the divorce that is barreling down the highway towards them. Crazy time, as the title suggests, acknowledges the craziness that can be divorce. This book focuses on the different stages of the process and the different ways for dealing with those stages. All of this is written through the lens of the author that describes the final days of, what she now acknowledges as the end of her marriage. This book is especially important for someone that has had very little experience with divorce, which we may believe can be very few people anymore that have not experienced divorce; however, people have a tendency and an ability to refuse to believe that this could ever happen to them. This is for those people. If they have blinders on when speaking to friends about their divorce, they probably have blinders on in their own marriage. The best part about this book is that before wrapping up, it acknowledges the good that comes out of marriages ending. This is important to me because this is one of the things I enjoy about my job. I get to see the transition from scared and weak to strong and ready for the change. This book presents the greener pastures beautifully. I would give this book five stars.

Book Review – Parents are Forever

Parents are Forever presents a great concept for co-parenting.  It uses the analogy of owning a business together with your partner to show how people should co-parent.  Parents who work together to care for their children after divorce become co-parents.  No matter how ex-spouses feel about each other personally, co-parents who want to be successful ACT reasonably.  Parents should attend formal meetings where child-related issues are discussed.  This concept requires healthy negotiating, which requires proper distance and respect for one another.  The book provides an example for proper business meeting structure and a checklist of discussion points that need to be discussed.  I give this book five stars for parents that are serious about successful co-parenting.  Even after all of the advice, this book teaches techniques, like accepting an un-perfect result, which is important, because after all, divorce is an imperfect result to begin with.  I like the concepts in this book so much that I often formally recommend (in my GAL report) that parents read this book in cases where I am acting as a GAL.   I give this book five stars.

Book Review – Two Homes

Clients often come to me before they have told anyone what they are going through, and that includes their children.  Clients often ask me how to have the divorce discussion with their children.  My answer is that it depends how old their children are and what the maturity level of their children is.  One option is to begin introducing the idea of divorce through books.  Two Homes is one such book that could be used to introduce the idea of divorce to young children.  The books states that it is for children 3-7 (on the back) but I would argue that it is actually for the younger end of that spectrum.  The book is very basic and could be used for a younger or less mature audience.  Maybe 3-5 years old.  The book revolves around Alex, presumably an only child and uses basic one-liners to show how things are different at each of his parent’s homes but it puts a positive spin on the fact that he has two of everything because he has two homes.  At the end it emphasizes that he loves both of his parents and both of his parents love him.  If both parents are committed to having an amicable separation and divorce, this could be a great book to introduce the changes the child will experience.  My only hesitation would be that this book paints an ideal picture of what it will look like, which, if both parents aren’t committed to making it a smooth transition, this book might set the child’s expectations too high.  But with this age group, I am not sure you have many alternatives because you definitely want to make every child feel comfortable and safe.  I rate this book 4 ½ stars and I would suggest this book for children on the younger end of the age spectrum.

Getting a second divorce, from the same person

Getting divorced for the second time…from the same person

As you might imagine this isn’t a very common problem.  Not many people get married to the same person twice.  Pamela Anderson married and divorced Rick Salomon twice.  Elizabeth Taylor married and divorced Richard Burton twice.  Richard Pryor married two of his wives two times.   For those facing this situation, there is very little information on this topic.  So I decided to provide some information.

Someone in this situation is going to have several questions, here are the (Ohio) answers to some of the questions we are asked:
1) Are the children, which were born during the first marriage, considered children of the second marriage?  Generally, yes.  Another example of this is where a couple is unmarried, has a child, then gets married, then gets divorced.  Even though the child was born before the marriage, the child is still considered “issue of the marriage.”

2) Will child support and custody be re-litigated?  Generally, yes.  At the conclusion of the first divorce, the court issued an order regarding custody and support.  When the parties remarried, that support (and custody) entry ceased being effective either because the court terminated the original order (the obligor does not have to continue to pay child support if the parties remarry) or because the court issued a new order after the remarriage.  In the second divorce, the court will issue a new child support order that will be based on the current status of the parties’ employment.  The court will also issue a new custody order that is likely to be the same as the order issued in the first divorce but may be different.

3) Will the parties re-litigate the division of property?  Generally, no; however, one of the factors that will impact this is how much time occurred between the first and second divorce.  Generally, the division of property that took place in the original divorce will still stand.  For example, if the court granted the martial residence to one of the parties, that party still gets to keep the home and that decision will not be revisited by the court.  The court will, however, divide any newly acquired property, if the parties have any.

Hopefully, this answers many of the questions you have about this topic.  

Top 10 Videos of 2017, #10: What If My Spouse Denies That The Marriage Is Irretrievably Broken?

Top 10 Videos of 2017, #10:  What If My Spouse Denies That The Marriage Is Irretrievably Broken?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, begins a new series on the Top 10 Videos of 2017.

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Kentucky Family Law: What If My Spouse Denies That The Marriage Is Irretrievably Broken?

Kentucky Family Law: What If My Spouse Denies That The Marriage Is Irretrievably Broken?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, continues a new series reviewing Kentucky family law.

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Cincinnati, OH 45246
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Juvenile Law: My child has been charged with being unruly, what does that mean?

Juvenile Law: My child has been charged with being unruly, what does that mean?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, continues a new series dedicated to the topic of Family Law.

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Cincinnati, OH 45246
(513) 793-7544
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Juvenile Law: Do I still have to pay child support if I reconcile with the child’s custodial parent?

Juvenile Law: Do I still have to pay child support if I reconcile with the child’s custodial parent?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, continues a new series dedicated to the topic of Family Law.

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Tibbs Law Office, LLC
1329 East Kemper Rd. #4230
Cincinnati, OH 45246
(513) 793-7544
www.tibbslawoffice.com

Juvenile Law: My child is under the age of 18, can he/she be emancipated?

Juvenile Law: My child is under the age of 18, can he/she be emancipated?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, continues a new series dedicated to the topic of Family Law.

For more online sources on this and similar topics, please visit our firm youtube channel at:

www.youtube.com/tibbslawoffice

www.youtube.com/tibbslawofficeKentucky

Tibbs Law Office, LLC
1329 East Kemper Rd. #4230
Cincinnati, OH 45246
(513) 793-7544
www.tibbslawoffice.com

Juvenile Law: My child has been charged with delinquency, what does that mean?

Juvenile Law: My child has been charged with delinquency, what does that mean?

Daryle C. Tibbs, owner of Tibbs Law Office, continues a new series dedicated to the topic of Family Law.

For more online sources on this and similar topics, please visit our firm youtube channel at:

www.youtube.com/tibbslawoffice

www.youtube.com/tibbslawofficeKentucky

Tibbs Law Office, LLC
1329 East Kemper Rd. #4230
Cincinnati, OH 45246
(513) 793-7544
www.tibbslawoffice.com